The truth is that there is nothing that can be gained by fighting. Fighting isn't about making compromises, or making things work.
A fight is about wanting to be 'right'.
But being right is costly. Even if you are correct in your argument, you are only correct subjectively, according to your emotions, logic and experience. But your argument might not be correct to someone else's emotions, logic and/or experience. So yell and argue until you're blue in the face, but don't expect results.
The fact is, the only thing to garner from such an argument is power. But it is a short-lived power, and it isn't going to bring you peace in the end.
I love this and I try to live this quote:
“When given a choice between kindness and being right, choose kindness.” Dr. Wayne Dyer.
Of course in the moment, it's difficult to remove ego from the equation and step back far enough to be selfless in a heated moment - but not only will it likely diffuse the situation, but it will leave both parties more peaceful and ready to move toward reconciliation.
Another fun thing to try is to funnel pure love energy toward someone you're upset with. Whether it's a boss, a spouse, a sibling, a friend... In the crux of the situation, imagine a beam of pure unconditional love streaming from your heart to theirs. See if it changes the situation. I'll bet you it does.
I don't know much - but I do know that more peace will come from living in this way than fighting all the time. At the very least, you'll never have to worry about your blood pressure. And practicing sending out that kind of good energy is great. The more you send out, the more you get back. Send nothing out and you'll get nothing back.
No matter how hard I try I can't NOT compare it to the Care Bear Stare....
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